The wedding planning and meticulous details of coordinating your new life together can be one of the many wonderful opportunities you take advantage of to build unity and cooperation as a couple.
You may have hired people (planners, advisors, coordinators, etc.) to help you organize, but there are still some things that need to be directly handled by you and your spouse-to-be. Consider yourselves the managers of your marriage, doing what’s absolutely necessary to carry out the vision for your relationship.
I chose to outline these tips in the form of meetings that could be carried out by you and your spouse-to-be as equal participants in a very important discussion.
**These exercises can certainly be used by those who are already married as you evaluate or re-evaluate how you plan and communicate with one another.
Family Vision Meeting
I believe every couple has a purposeful existence here on earth. You may be called to procreate in order to birth the 2060 nominee for the President of the United States. You may serve natural disaster victims as volunteers on a mission to impact the good of humanity. You may start a neighborhood watch group out of concern for increased crime in your area. Whatever it is, now is a great time to find the “heart” of your marriage. What motivates you both beyond yourselves? What legacy will you leave behind? Ponder together your shared values and generate ways to proactively be the best parents you can, outreach to those less fortunate, or create that awesome program that will make others’ lives better. This doesn’t have to happen overnight. Create a timeline for attaining such goals as you prepare to take your neighborhoods and world by storm. Meet at least quarterly to discuss or revise your plans.
Personal Achievement Meeting
Does one of you (or both of you) want to go back to school or receive special training? What does this look like for the family, time wise? I personally can remember when my husband and I decided in our premarital education sessions that we wouldn’t attend graduate school at the same time. We didn’t want two preoccupied students in the house amidst our already busy schedules. My husband attended first because his job was footing the tuition bill. I attended graduate school a couple of years later when I was sure of what I wanted to study. This arrangement worked for our family, as we could “serve” the studying spouse as a cheerleader of constant encouragement while assisting with editing papers and assignments if necessary.
At your own meeting, sit down with your calendar, journals, and/or planner. Support each other with forming personal goals, as you both strive to improve yourselves in various areas, whether it be in your education, career, or health. Clearly define the goals and hold each other accountable to time lines and specifics. Meet at least quarterly to discuss how far you’ve come with meeting those goals.
Financial Planning Meeting
Can you imagine the executives of a major billion dollar corporation not meeting to discuss the order of business for a week, month, quarter, or year? I’m pretty sure that many meetings took place in order for them to obtain their current status as they planned, organized, and executed their next big business move. As technical (and not romantic❤️) as it may sound, this same mindset can be adopted by married couples as they attempt to foster a healthy financial mindset. Monthly review of bank statements, budgets, and saving goals can be the agenda of your particular “exec” meeting. Use these meetings to also discuss ways to improve habits and attitudes towards money. No matter what level of income you achieve, proper communication and wise decision making is crucial to money mastery.
Here are some attributes of couples with a healthy financial mindset:
*they don’t live to keep up with every latest car, clothing designer, restaurant, and luxury brand in order to feel good about themselves
*they understand saving money is a priority and not an option as emergency funds and retirement accounts take precedence over frivolous matters that hold no true value. (Ask yourself this: Could I borrow against an expensive cell phone or clothing item if I needed money in a pinch?)
*they realize that “true wealth” is not centered on how much money can be attained but is characteristic of the high quality of relationships and life lived
*they remain thankful for progress and celebrate small victories
*they respect each other’s salary amount and contributions to the budget and household
*they have a joint bank account in order to work together to plan how household bills will be accounted for
Found these tips helpful? How will you proceed with your spouse-to-be in scheduling your own team-building meetings?
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